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Are you ready to go from feeling anxious in dating to more secure, confident, and empowered so you can finally attract the healthy relationship of your dreams?! 

That's exactly what we'll be doing inside of SECURELY CHOSEN!

Securely Chosen is a structured 5-module course designed to give you the tools, self-coaching and inner work to help you break anxious dating patterns and build secure, confident dating dynamics that lead to a attracting a healthy, committed relationship.

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                  Imagine: 

🌹 Instead of an anxious spiral spilling over into days, even weeks of your life - you’re able to feel calmer, lighter, and grounded in a matter of minutes.  

🌹 No longer feeling scared of dating, being seen, or actually falling in love (because *gasp* then they’d REALLY see you and there’s "more to lose" once you’re seen) and having beliefs that match the type of secure, committed man you want to attract 

🌹Upgrading your standards in dating so that you only entertain and invest time in men who are looking for a committed relationship 

🌹 Feeling secure in your boundaries, how to express them in an authentic way and unapologetically repel the wrong men (time wasters, players, situationship-hunters) and magnetize the RIGHT men into your life 

🌹 Spending WAY more time in emotions like: joy, excitement, gratitude, and confidence because you have done the inner work to let go of insecurities and worry and fear and now you are truly OPEN for a healthy, committed relationship 

🌹 Completely up-leveling your mindset, beliefs, and identity so that you are truly a match for the high value relationship that you put on your vision board - and that you actually can receive it!

Inside Securely Chosen You'll Learn How to:

 ✓Regulate anxious spirals in real-time so you can move from overthinking, emotional overwhelm to feeling calm, grounded, and secure within minutes

 ✓Attract emotionally available, commitment-minded men by shifting the beliefs & patterns that previously drew in avoidant and inconsistent men

 ✓ Upgrade your standards and boundaries so that you’re pursued, valued, and investing only in men who are ready to for something serious in the dating process

 ✓ Shift the limiting beliefs and subconscious patterns that keep you attracting inconsistent or emotionally unavailable men - and replace them with beliefs that lead to attracting secure, committed love

 ✓ Feel confident expressing your needs and boundaries during the stages of dating in an authentic, feminine way that repels the wrong men and magnetizes the right ones

✓ Embody the secure, self-trusting woman who attracts healthy love - so that dating feels lighter, more empowering, and aligned with the quality of relationship you truly want

I'm so Ready!

Inside Securely Chosen™, you'll receive:

🌹The complete 5-Module Securely Chosen Program

A step-by-step system to help you shift from anxious, overthinking patterns in dating to feeling secure, confident, and empowered so you can naturally attract a healthy, committed relationship.

Inside the program you’ll get:

• 20+ pre-recorded video trainings walking you through the mindset, emotional, and dating shifts required to attract secure love
• Practical tools to regulate anxious spirals in minutes instead of letting them take over your day or week
• Belief-shifting frameworks to reprogram subconscious patterns that attract inconsistent or emotionally unavailable men
• Secure dating strategies so you can confidently identify compatibility, standards, setting boundaries, and red flags early
• Guided EFT tapping sessions to release emotional blocks like fear of rejection, not being good enough, or disappointment in dating
• Secure Woman embodiment practices so confidence, clarity, and magnetism become your natural way of dating

Plus Instant-Access Bonus Trainings:

💎 The Aligned Date Training
Learn practical and energetic rituals to help you feel calm, confident, and grounded before, during, and after dates.

💎 How to Go From Casual to Committed: 5-Part Training Series
The core shifts required to attract commitment-minded partners and break free from situationship patterns.

💎 Inbox to In-Person Playbook
A messaging guide designed to help you move from messaging on the apps to real dates faster with higher-quality men.

Includes:

• 49 ready-to-use responses that encourage men to ask you out
• Scripts for common texting scenarios
• Boundary-setting language that keeps your energy protected
• Strategies that position you to be pursued instead of chasing

Your enrollment also includes:

✓ Immediate access to the full program
✓ Downloadable workbooks and exercises
✓ Bonus trainings and tools
✓ Lifetime access to all materials and future updates
✓ Access to the program portal so you can revisit the material anytime

Securely Chosen Program Outline

 

Module 1: Calm the Spiral

Learn practical tools to regulate anxiety, interrupt overthinking, and create grounded emotional safety in the in-between moments of dating.

We’ll cover:

• Tools to regulate anxiety and stop spiraling
• Understanding your anxious dating patterns and shifting toward secure ones
• Creating emotional safety within yourself
• Exercises to return to calm quickly

      Trainings Inside:

  • 13 tools to help you regulate, shift from anxious to secure, and have mindset shifts (Videos teaching the tool + how to implement) 
  • Secure Woman Pattern Tracker Overview (plus tracker download)
  • Journaling Overview
  • EFT Tapping Overview

 

Module 2: Reprogram Your Mind

Shift limiting beliefs that hold you back from attracting secure, stable love and rewire subconscious dating patterns.

We’ll cover:

• Identifying limiting beliefs about dating, men, and relationships
• The belief-shifting framework
• Rewiring subconscious patterns
• Using EFT tapping to create beliefs that support healthy commitment (includes guided EFT tapping mini sessions to help you have real-time shifts around some of the stickiest beliefs that get triggered in dating)

Trainings Inside:

  • Limiting Beliefs Overview
  • How to change your patterns 
  • The 9 Step Belief Shifting Process 
  • Quick, in-the-moment belief shifting tool
  • Downloads: Workbooks & Belief Shifting Process

✨ Bonus EFT Tapping Sessions for subconscious belief shifting:

  • Any Belief Tapping (use it to release and re-program the belief of your choice)
  • What if it Doesn’t Happen?
  • Fear of Not Being Good Enough
  • Letting go of Disappointment

 

Module 3: Secure Dating Foundations

Date from clarity, compatibility, and self-trust. This module will help you lay the foundation for attracting a relationship that will be set up to thrive (and last!)

We’ll cover:

• Dating your type vs. compatibility for long-term partnership
• Clarifying your relationship values in dating
• Creating a compatibility blueprint
• Making confident, empowered dating decisions

Trainings Inside:

  • Type vs. Compatibility Overview
  • Short vs. Longterm Mindset
  • Shifting Away from Dating Your Type & Moving Towards Compatibility
  • Clarifying Your Relationship Values in Dating 
  • Downloads: Workbooks and The Secure Woman Compatibility Plan 

 

Module 4: High Value Dating 

Develop standards, boundaries, and communication that support a high-quality future relationship.

We’ll cover:

• Upgrading standards in men, dating, and relationships
• Empowered boundaries and how to communicate them
• Moving through dating stages with pacing and energy protection
• Recognizing emotional unavailability and red flags

Trainings Inside:

  •  Understanding The Stages of Dating
  • High Value Dating Standards
  • Secure Woman Boundaries
  • High value boundaries that inspire a man to pursue and commit
  • Recognizing Red Flags & Emotional Unavailability Early On 

BONUS: Masculine & Feminine Energy Dating Dynamics 

 

Module 5: Secure Woman Integration & Embodiment 

Anchor the secure, high value habits that create long-term emotional security and increase your magnetism in dating.

We’ll cover:
• Increasing your magnetism so you can attract high quality, emotionally available men with ease

• Journaling prompts for quick mindset & alignment shifts to stay empowered & open
• Daily rituals to keep your energy open and in possibility

Trainings Inside: 

  • The Basics to Being Magnetic
  • Attracting vs. Chasing
  • Your Vision for Your Dream Relationship
  • Anchoring in The Secure Woman Identity
  • Post Date Reflection

Bonus:

  • 7 Rituals to do Daily to Attract Your Dream Partner
  • Daily Journaling Prompts to Stay Secure 

 

Instant access bonuses:

💎 The Aligned Date Training

A practical and energetic framework for feeling grounded and confident before, during, and after dates.

Learn rituals and mindset practices that replace anxious overthinking with ease and clarity.

💎 How to go From Casual to Committed: 5-Part Training Series

Five pre-recorded trainings + workbook covering the core shifts required to attract commitment-minded partners.

Break free from situationship patterns and learn behaviors that invite serious interest.

💎 Inbox to In-Person Playbook

A messaging system designed to help you move from apps to real dates - faster and with higher-quality men.

Inside you’ll get:

• 49 ready-to-use responses that encourage men to ask you out (18 page PDF guide)
• Scripts for common texting scenarios
• Clear ways to communicate boundaries
• Strategies that position you to be pursued
• Guidance for protecting your time and energy

 

You receive immediate access to the modules, pre-work, and bonuses upon enrollment.

Ready to become the most secure, empowered version of you?!

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Frequently Asked Questions: 

What happens after I sign up?

After purchase, you’ll receive a confirmation email and a separate email from Kajabi prompting you to create your login and access your student portal where you will find the Securely Chosen course content.

When do I get access to the program?
You receive immediate access to pre-work, the 5 core modules, and bonuses after purchase.

How long do I have access?
You receive lifetime access to all Securely Chosen materials and future updates.

Is this personalized coaching?
Securely Chosen is a digital training program. Direct 1:1 coaching or messaging with Valerie is not included.

What if I fall behind or am busy?
No problem at all! All modules stay in your portal and you can move through them at your own pace. 

What is the refund policy?
Due to the digital nature of the program and immediate access to materials, all sales are final and no refunds are provided. 

About Your Dating Coach:

Hello, I'm Valerie Adams - Dating Coach & Certified Master Life Coach, & NLP Practitioner!

In 2019 was going on year three of being single after a breakup that left me devastated and scared to date again.

Every time I logged onto Instagram there was another announcement of a person from high school getting engaged, somebody was pregnant, or a wedding album was posted.

I was deeply triggered (bothered) by this because I wanted love but it wasn't happening for me.

Through doing the inner work and learning what I teach inside of Securely Chosen, I attracted an incredible partner, Ryan.

He flew across the country✈️ to take me on our first date, took the lead, made his intentions known early on, treated me with respect, and asked for a commitment after less than 3 months. We've been together for over six years!

He is my soulmate and treats me like a Queen every day. I can't wait to show you the tools and shifts I made so you can attract the relationship of your dreams.

Since starting my business in 2018, I've supported 1000+ women create their dream reality & attract their dream relationship.

I can't wait to support you! 

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